It always amazes me the sorts of things some men think are attractive to a dominant woman. There are submissive males that do really get it... that by courting a dominant much like they'd court a vanilla woman (albeit with the addition of kink) is an effective way to get some of their dreams and fantasies fulfilled. Then there are others... the ones that absolutely don't get the concept that a dominant is just a human that happens to enjoy activities that are outside the realm of "normal" interaction.

I got a stunning example of the latter as a comment on this blog. I considered deleting it, but it just amused me way too much. I don't even begin to take approaches like this one seriously. He's at least fairly articulate, which leads me to believe that reformation is possible.

I would love to be your male slave suffering through all the kinky pain & gore as your collared & leashed slave to be made to dress as a girl licking you allover & being paddled up the ass & shaved where ever you wish to be sexually humiliated & experimented on. Will I be made to stay naked & be kidnapped to do whatever your bidding is & to get raped, whipped & have kinky sex as a Male prostitute in bdsm sex & bondage?

My response? I appreciate your desire to be a slave; however, to actually fulfill your desires, I would suggest getting to know a dominant as a person, then exploring your desires together, finding ways in which you are compatible, and compromising on those things that don't quite mesh. If you focus on how you might please and serve, rather than on how your fetishes might be fulfilled, it's quite likely that you'll find someone who will enjoy the things that you do.

I took the opportunity to play with a very sweet masochist the other day, and had a fabulous time doing so. Much fun was had, although he didn't scream once. I'll have to try harder next time.

I'm cursed with the ability to only find masochists that don't mark easily it seems. So frustrating. I'll either have to widen my net, or hit harder. Somehow, both prospects sound equally enticing.